In recent months, the media has been beaming its spotlight on men who do horrible things. The #MeToo and #IBelieveHer hashtags. Tales of Hollywood sleaze. High profile rape trials. The horrible deeds of men have been questioned like never before.
I’m not really into hashtags, bandwagons or campaigns. Instead, contrarian that I am, I’ve been turning my own spotlight on men who are careful.
Men who weigh up their words when they’re speaking to women
Men who hold open doors to let shoals of women through
Men who hoist children high on their shoulders so they can see a parade passing by
Men who leave room for women to speak
Men who make you laugh so much you can hardly breathe
Men who put an arm around a woman’s shoulder, and don’t let that arm stray any further
Men who tell you how beautiful you look, no matter what
Fathers who put their shoulders to the wheel
Men who cook succulent dinners
Men who see your lower lip trembling, then wipe away your tears.
These men are our fathers, our brothers, our other halves, our friends. The minefields they negotiate are just as difficult as ours. These are men whose deeds go beyond hashtags. These are men who choose to be careful with women. Let the actions of these men be a counterweight to the tales of sleaze. Let us raise these men up.